When children – most commonly boys – are not able to get their cup refilled consistently they often become impulsive and inattentive. Other children, more commonly girls, can become timid and mousy because they are not allowed to be assertive or independent. It’s the tabletop experiments all over again. The only thing some boys know how to do when they are frustrated is be aggressive; the only thing some girls know how to do when they are frustrated is to sulk or follow passively along.
From "Playful Parenting," by Lawrence J. Cohen: Pg. 145 –
Saturday, October 16, 2010
It is our brush with Wild Woman that drives us not to limit our conversations to humans, not to limit our most splendid movements to dance floors, nor our ears only to music made by human-made instruments, nor our eyes to “taught” beauty, nor our bodies to approved sensations, nor our minds to those things we all agree upon already.
This is a book of women’s stories, help out as markers along the path. They are for you to read, contemplate and follow toward your own natural-won freedom, your caring for self, animals, earth, children, sisters, lovers, and men. I’ll tell you right now, the doors to the world of Wild Woman are few but precious. If you have a deep scar, that is a door, if you have an old, old story, that is a door. If you love the sky and the water so much you almost cannot bear it, that is a door. If you yearn for a deeper life, a full life, a sane life, that is a door.
The wildish nature does not require a woman to be a certain color, a certain education, a certain lifestyle or economic class . . . in fact, it cannot thrive in an atmosphere of enforced political correctness, or by being bent into old burnt-out paradigms. It thrives on fresh sight and self-integrity. It thrives on its own nature.
So, whether you are an introvert or extrovert, a woman-loving woman, a man-loving woman, or a God-loving woman, or all of the above: Whether you are possessed of a simple heart or the ambitions of an Amazon, whether you are trying to make it to the top or just make it through tomorrow, whether you be spicy or somber, regal or roughshod – the Wild Woman belongs to you. She belongs to all women.
From "Women Who Run With the Wolves" Introduction: Singing Over the Bones (pg. 20-21).
Friday, October 15, 2010
Don’t spend a lot of time imagining the worst-case scenario. It rarely goes down as you imagine it will, and if by some fluke it does, you will have lived it twice. When things go bad, don’t run, don’t hide. Stick it out, and be scrupulous in facing every part of your fear. Try to be still. It will take time, but you’ll find that even the gravest problems are finite—and that your choices are infinite.
From A Funny Thing Happened on the Way to the Future by Michael J. Fox (page 88).
Life is good, and there’s no reason to think that it won’t be—right up until the moment when everything explodes into a fireball of tiny, unrecognizable fragments, or it all goes skidding sideways, through the guardrail, over the embankment, and down the mountain. This will happen (and probably more than once.).
From A Funny Thing Happened on the Way to the Future by Michael J. Fox (page 80).